This is a sensitive post. One with likely triggers for some. If you’re someone who thinks we’re all just whining about the election results and need to “get over it,” this post isn’t for you.
I’ve been thinking a lot since I woke up yesterday morning about what to write. I could have ranted last night, but didn’t. I got angry after spending a good part of the day fighting back tears. This post isn’t so much about the politics, the why of what happened, or anger at a broken political system.
It’s about why so many are so devastated by the results. About who will be leading our country, and who is now set up as a role model to so many.
I’m literally grieving right now because half of our country voted for a man who is the monstrous, public, in-your-face version of my ex-husband. We put a narcissistic sociopathic, racist, sexual-abuser in power. This man, to so many, is a reminder of someone else in their life who hurt them. We cannot, and will not be ok with this. This isn’t something we’ll get over in a month when the post-election fervor dies down. Every time we see his face on TV, we will be reminded, and we will have to find a way to cope.
And his VP isn’t any better. We have put two people with NO empathy into the highest office in our land. We have every right to be afraid for ourselves, for our friends and families and for those in marginalized groups who were targeted in hatred during the campaign. That genie’s been let out of the bottle, and he likes his freedom. Defeating him, or at least beating him back into the shadows will be a difficult and painful task. So don’t tell anyone who’s upset to “get over it,” “you’re over-reacting,” or even “it will be ok.” Because right now, we can’t see “ok”. We can only see the very real threats to own personal health and safety.
We’re sad, scared and grieving for the loss of the illusion that this country was somewhere where personal liberties were valued. Where the Statue of Liberty actually meant that those who didn’t match the straight white male form could make a good, decent life for themselves and their families. We just found out that half of this nation doesn’t think that way, and is glad that many of the progressive reforms of the last eight years will likely be reversed.
To any and all of my friends, no matter who you are, know that if you’re hurting, I have an ear, I will hold space for you, and I will stand by you against hate and fear. The next four years are going to be tough, but we are stronger together.